I get a lot of eye rolls when I talk about how weird it is to be turning 26! Ya ya Melissa…wait until you’re THIRTY or FOURTY. It’s not the fact that I’m turning 26 that bothers me but that I am officially on the downward slope out of my 20’s!
I feel like I’ve learned more about myself in the past five years than I did the other twenty one.
So here is my list of 26 things I’ve learned in 26 years!
1) Don’t take life so seriously.
I try to laugh and be goofy. People sometimes think I’m goofy or weird but it’s important to laugh as much as possible.
2) The grass is only greener on the other side if you don’t take care of your grass.
This is both literal and figurative. Being married to a former groundskeeper has taught me that this! Lol but it’s true. I try every day to stop looking at the people who have more than me and just focus on what I have.
3) Eat the donuts. Unapologetically.
Because once people get over the shock and chaos that is your blantant disregard to calories that will eventually embrace it. I don’t think a week goes by that someone doesn’t send me at least one donut related photo, and that’s not something I’m ashamed to be associated with.
4) Kill ‘me with kindness.
We all know this, and I am still working on it!
5) Get it done now or get it done later but it still needs to get done.
Anyone who knows me knows I don’t like the phrase “babies don’t keep”. I mean yes, it’s true, and we shouldn’t live our lives obsessing over cleanliness but we also need to have our shit somewhat together.
6) Let your freak flag fly
You might as well accept yourself and let it happen. You are the only one who has to live with yourself in every moment, if others don’t like it then they can deal with that themselves.
7) Mind your own business
Well. I mean this is basic but people don’t actually practice this. Everyone should try it.
8) Life is all a grey area
There is almost no black and white. Everything is about perspective, and just because I don’t agree with something doesn’t mean that I’m right.
9) The world does not need to bend to accommodate me.
There are billions of people in the world. I am one of billions. So if I’m uncomfortable, if I have to wait in line longer than I’d like or if I see something that I disagree with it is not my right to have it any other way. Being a person in the world means things will not always be peachy.
10) Their are no good presidential candidates.
No one can be truly good and be able to successfully campaign for presidency.
11) Having children is a privilege.
People try to have children and then have to face the fact that they will never get to. This is unfair, and can be very painful. Having children is a privilege that must be taken seriously. It is a privilege to create a human and raise them to be in this world.
12) Harry Potter and the Prisoner of Azkaban
Is the greatest book in the series and if you don’t agree then you are wrong. Some thing’s ARE black and white.
13) Just because you can doesn’t mean you should
Sometimes you just need to shut up and sit back. That’s important. Not everything you know if important to everyone around you.
14) We are poisoning our planet
It is absolutely disgusting to me how much we waste and throw out into the world. Our oceans are so grossly polluted. Some people don’t believe in climate change being a result of our actions, and whatever floats your boat but how about the basic fact that the animals that cohabitate on this earth are suffering? This is the world we are giving to our children and we are breaking it.
15) Love thy neighbor
Not literally. Some neighbors are awful, you don’t have to love them. But have love in your heart for people around you.
16) Believe people are good and let them prove you wrong.
We can’t live life blind, but seeing doesn’t mean walking around with a chip on your shoulder. Let people prove their own character.
17) stand up for the little guy
Nothing is worse than picking on a broken person. It’s a true act of evil and should not be tolerated.
18) Don’t argue with people in the internet
Occasionally I see something exceptionally ridiculous that I just have to respond to, but you aren’t going to change anyone’s mind so it doesn’t matter
19) Be a stickler when it comes to bed time
When it’s time for bed it’s TIME FOR BED. I don’t bend on that with my kids. Even on weekends. GO TO SLEEP.
20) Dr Phil is a terrible person.
Like I don’t know if he’s even actually a Dr. And I don’t think he genuinely cares about the people he sees. He is such a disgusting opportunist.
21) Meditation will heal you inwardly
I have become such a strong advocate for meditation. I try to incorporate it into my daily life. The more often I meditate the better I feel it’s truly the best gift you can give yourself.
22) conquer all of your fears
I have a mild fear of heights and every time I am somewhere high up I feel like I’m ebbing away at that fear. It’s important to try and conquer your fears as often as possible
23) scary movies
I can only watch what I can live with. If it has to do with children or demons, I have to opt out. Because I carry that shit with me.
24) Reading series
Finishing a good book series is both fulfilling and emptying. Proceed with caution
25) Try not to swear
I like myself more when I cuss less. It is, again, something I’m working on.
26) Forgive yourself.
I am not perfect and I will never be. I give myself permission to be who I am and forgive myself for my mistakes.