Ode to Millennials (from a Millennial)


SO some of you have probably seen this video floating around:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_wLmtuhuyhA&feature=youtu.be

If not, and you don’t want to watch it, ill break it down for you.

Its Alexis Bloomer, a Texas-born Millennial FOX news columnist, discussing what is wrong with this generation and apologizing on behalf of us all. I feel like she is definitely piggy backing on Tomi Lahren, another Millennial FOX news person who I truly have no respect for. And I don’t think she cares. But I can’t help to see the distinct similarities between the two, the things they say and the way they express their ideas.

So, before I begin, what is a Millennial?

Well, there is a lot of debate there. Typically, it is anyone born between the years 1980-1995. So in 2017 anyone between the ages of 37 and 22 is considered a Millennial.

I have several issues with the broad labelling of a generation. Firstly, every generation adapts to the unique challenges it is faced. The world is different than it was 20 years ago. It’s different then it was 5 years ago, and that’s the reality of life. Secondly, I find it HILARIOUS that people would like to label a generation that is largely under the age of 30 as irresponsible. SO……you’re telling me…that people in their 20’s being irresponsible is unique to this generation? I’m sorry, I just don’t agree with that.

I don’t think there has ever been a generation that worked harder than the previous. That is typically the GOAL of each generation; to make it easier for their children’s children.

So I wanted to make a post to address each of Alexis’s points about Millennials.

Entitlement

This is typically what I hear the most about this generation. And I have seen it. People who want to be the boss and promote promote promote but don’t want to put in the hours. I see it in so many ways in so many people, but the place I see it most is in people who haven’t had struggle in their lives. If you haven’t gone without, you typically don’t appreciate things as much as someone who has. That is not a generational defect; that is the reality of the world. You could go back hundreds of years and find people who have struggled and worked hard, and people who have gotten everything handed to them and don’t appreciate the value of good work ethic.

You get people like Alexis who have an accent and come from the south and think that because of that they speak for America and what the core values are, but that is so far from reality. I wonder how much she has struggled? I wonder if she lived in a house no better than a shack with no air conditioning, and her parents had to seek government aid because they couldn’t afford to eat despite working AND going to school full time? Because my family did. I remember laying in my bed on hot summer days with a swamp cooler in my window feeling wet and sticky from the humidity and hearing rats that died in the walls swell up and pop and leaving our house smelling like road kill. I remember when my mom was doing the dishes and the kitchen floor caved in, and when she would take showers and frogs came out of the faucet and my sister and I had to catch the frogs for her as she shrieked from behind the shower curtain. That house has some of the fondest memories. I learned to appreciate central heating and air, and I learned to fill pots and the bathtub with water when a storm came in. I learned the value of oil lamps, that drinking out of a hose is perfectly acceptable, that kids need to be raised free-range, and most importantly years later I learned how incredibly HARD my mom worked to give us everything she could.

I definitely don’t believe that people who haven’t struggled don’t appreciate what they have. I just feel like the ones who definitely don’t appreciate what they have also have never struggled. That goes beyond generations and is just life. It has ALWAYS been that way.

Just existing; not contributing

If there was a way I could virtually eye roll, I would. Instead, I am eye rolling right now and you are just going to have to visualize that.

Millennials as a whole are more conscious of our environment than other generations. There is a bigger push for sustainable farming, cutting our processed foods, healthier and greener living and reducing our carbon footprint.

Along with environmental responsibility, Millennials tend to favor companies that help provide for communities.

‘More than eight in 10 Millennials (81%) expect companies to make a public commitment to good corporate citizenship…It used to be that companies would align with charities that shared their same values,” says Horizon Media’s Kirk Olson, VP of Trend Sights at Horizon Media. “Now brands are taking these do-good values and baking into their corporate identities.”’

Millennials as a whole tend to see themselves as citizens on a global level, and recognize their responsibility to make the world better.

Technology is advancing at such a rapid pace, and this is spearheaded in large part by millennials. The innovative and imaginative ideas from this generation have taken dream to reality and improved the lives of millions.

None of this is exclusive to our generation. From the “tree huggers” who chained themselves to redwoods and thus saved the groves for my children to enjoy, to the men and women who built a nation, America has and will always be a place of transformation and progress.

Obscenity/destroying language/disrespect

This I totally agree with, but I also disagree with.

I agree that today’s pop culture is just disgusting, but I don’t think the decline of decency is strictly due to Millennials. If you look back at how our culture has morphed throughout history, it’s been a steady decline for a LONG TIME. Remember when people thought Elvis was obscene?

On that same note, I do think it’s getting out of hand. Young women are sexualized and degraded in our mainstream media. I have a seven year old daughter and I do my best to instill in her the ideals of self-worth, being a good person, the beauty on the inside and confidence to stand up for herself. I think that we as parents have a responsibility to help our kids navigate through that. Should we blame media for sexualizing women and presenting bad examples for children, consumers of accepting and buying into disgusting media practices, or parents for not being present or strong enough to filter through that for their children?

Most parents don’t identify themselves as “Millennials” my husband is in his mid-30’s and he is right at the cusp of the generation cut off and we have very young children. Most people parenting teens and young adults today are not Millennials. So these “entitled spoiled brats” are being raised by the previous generation, Gen X (mostly). I behave the way I do based off of the foundations my parents laid for me, coupled with natural growing and changing that comes with age. I expect my kids to go on to be productive members of society, and I take that responsibility on to myself until they are 18 years old. So if your kid is a spoiled entitled brat, it could very well be your fault. Blaming society or the generation is a cop-out.

When Alexis dives into disrespect for our elders and not holding doors open for people…well that is just rude people. That isn’t the generation. I hold the doors for people and when someone holds the door for me I thank them, I say please and thank you and I respect my elders. I think that is the norm of most people, but like with anything there are the exceptions. I have seen people disrespect their elders at ALL ages, and I have had men older than me shut the door behind them even when I have a baby, two older kids and arms full of groceries.

So yes, I think respect and decency is a problem in this generation and the future generations, but I think that correcting this begins in the home. And I don’t think it is exclusive to my generation.

Idolizing Kim Kardashian and shaming Tim Tebow

I love how the same people who idolize Tim Tebow are ashamed of Colin Kaepernick and were disgusted by the Dixie chicks. All of which publically stood up for their beliefs. I disagree with Kaepernick’s tactics because I am a firm believer that we stand for the flag because it represents the struggle and blood shed that allows people like him to have the right to stand up for what he believes in, but I also don’t care what he does. Because I don’t know him, and I don’t really care about him and I also think he is an awful quarterback.

Kim Kardashian is just awful, and I totally follow her on snap chat. I mean, I think she is very smart and business savvy but I don’t respect much of anything her and her family stand for or represent. But, again, I don’t really care. And I don’t care if people watch her stuff, and I don’t think watching her shows means anything as far and who someone is as a person. I also watch the Bachelor, and I acknowledge that it’s pretty stupid and I joke about it. Even worse, I watch Teen Mom. And I have the same acknowledgements…but that doesn’t really say much about who I am. I like to have some garbage TV on at night when my kids go to bed while I fold laundry. That means nothing.

I just don’t understand how this even matters or is a valid point about our generation. Some may say it’s because we are “godless” for shaming Tim Tebow, well he is a Christian who was showing his faith but not everyone is Christian. And there is nothing wrong with that. And some Christians are more private about their faith, which again is fine. I personally had no problem with what he did, and I don’t care and whatever, but I also accept that anytime you do something publically you are opening yourself up to criticism. That’s just the reality of being a public figure. I don’t think that has anything to do with generations.

Nothing has value to our generation/we do not form real connections to people

This is not a generational trait as much as it is an age/how your raised trait. Things that mattered when I was 20 are different now. Things that mattered before I had kids don’t matter anymore. Life changes us; experiences change us. And considering most millennials are in their 20’s/early 30’s, we are still learning what matters.

To me, my faith and my family are very important. The environment is important to me, caring for our fellow man is important to me. I donate $20 every month to St Jude’s because the work they do for children is important to me. I started going to church on Sunday because I wanted my children to grow up in a house hold where faith was at the center, and that is important to me. I don’t care if it’s important to anyone else. I don’t think anyone is less than I am if they don’t do that.

I value all of these things. I value my job because I am lucky enough to have full-time employment.

As far as relationships, that is something I do really see either. Millennials are waiting longer to have children and get married, or even opting out of marriage completely, but does that constitute the only meaningful relationship a person can have? And hasn’t everyone at some point of their lives outgrown friends and relationships to the point where they find their core group of real friends? I can’t see that as being an exclusively “Millennial” trait.

 

So, like with any generation, there are pros and cons. This is the reality of being a person who exists in the universe. No one is perfect; no one is without fault. I don’t look at my generation as the decline of mankind. I look at my generation as being young, which is a fact, and as changing as we grow. I look at my generation as being one with hope for the future, and I see progress and positive change on the horizon.

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